-
These sports losses cause real pain

Aaron “Bleepin’” Boone hadn’t even completed his trip around the bases, and the phone rang.
I was designing sports pages at The Montana Standard on the night of Oct. 16, 2003, and I was still trying to decide if the home run Boone hit was live or one of those annoying replay flashbacks that they kept showing.
Unfortunately, it was live. Boone hit the first Tim Wakefield pitch of the bottom of the 11th inning of Game 7 of the American League Championship Series for a game-winning home run.
In shock, I answered the phone like I always did, only without any enthusiasm.
“Standard sports, this is Bill.”
On the other end of the phone was Dee Scalabrin, a Yankees fan who worked in the advertising department. She was enjoying the game from home.
“Hey Foley,” Dee yelled. “How’d you like that game?”
I just hung up the phone and got back to work as the pain of the crushing loss began to sit in. I was the only one working on the sports desk that night, so, in a cruel twist, I had to write the headline for the Yankees win.
Somehow, I didn’t put any curse words in the headline.
Dee is not the only person to call or text to taunt me after a tough loss by one of my favorite teams. Her call is just the most memorable because of how quickly it came in and because of the enormity of the loss.
Dream-crushing, season-ending losses like that really sting. Losses like the one the Chicago Bears suffered on Sunday sting, too.
It really makes no sense, but for diehard fans, those losses feel like more than a game. It’s almost as if you lost a loved one. Maybe not an immediate family member. More like an uncle you really liked.
That is why some of my Yankees fan friends sent me a tray of pasties after the Bronx Bombers swept the Red Sox in a rare five-game series in 2006. In Butte, that is something we normally do after the death of a family member.
I knew that a Red Sox win on that October 2003 night would have been crushing to Dee — and the many other Yankees fans in my life. And I would have been taunting them had the Red Sox won. Probably not as quickly as Dee, but I would have been hard to be around for the next week.
Or months.
That’s what friends are for. To make you feel even worse at the low points of your life and to rub your nose in their good sports-fan fortune.
We all know those friends who we can’t stand to see happy about their sports teams, so we spend as much or more time cheering against other teams than we do cheering for our own teams.
That’s what is so difficult about this year’s World Series that it involves two of the three most annoying fan bases in baseball. (For the record, I acknowledge that Red Sox fans, like me, also make up a third of that annoying trinity of baseball fan bases.)
As it stands, I am staring at the prospect of dealing with the happiness of my Yankees fan friend Davey Dunmire or the smugness of my Dodgers fan cousin Mike “Skinny” Foley. That is like choosing between a root canal or a colonoscopy.
If only they could both lose.
On Sunday, the Bears lost on a Hail Mary in Washington, and it felt like somebody just reached into my chest and ripped out my heart. The Commanders prayer was answered seconds after the Bears took their only lead of the game. In a split second, I went from being the happiest guy in the world to the saddest.
Immediately, my “friends” Scott Ferguson and Blake Hempstead sent texts to rub in the loss. Nothing like a little salt to pour into a wound.
My dog died last year, too. You want to tease me about that?
Some of my Bears fans friends — like Tommy O’Neill, C.D. Holter and T.J. Lazzari — posted a meme on Facebook that many felt was a joke, but it really was not. The meme showed a picture of a Bears flag, and it had the words “Please respect our privacy during this difficult time.”
Sure, this difficult time during the regular season shouldn’t be more than a few days. By Thursday or Friday, it should be OK to taunt us about the loss. Well, maybe Saturday.
But you should have the decency to respect our pain for a few days.
When the Bears lost to the Colts in the Super Bowl in February of 2007, I went into a weeks-long depression. I did not watch the NFL Network, a then relatively new network that I watched every single day leading up to the Super Bowl, until late March.
I did not watch a single second of the 2003 World Series, but I did enjoy pointing out to my Yankees fans friends and family that it was won by the Marlins.
I used to always marvel at the Montana Tech football team’s ability to get over a tough loss under head coach Bob Green.
Green’s Orediggers won way more than they lost. But on the rare occasion when they lost a heartbreaking game on Saturday, I was always blown away by how positive the team was on Monday.
That carried over to head coach Chuck Morrell and then to head coach Kyle Samson.
I drove by Naranche Stadium in the dark hours of Monday morning, and I saw the Butte High Bulldogs enthusiastically practicing less than 60 hours after their crushing loss at Helena Capital.
When the Bears lose on Sunday, it takes me at least until Wednesday to read any stories or listen to any sports radio shows about the team.
The morning after the Commanders Hail Mary, I couldn’t listen to my favorite show Kap & J. Hood. Instead, I listened to something not nearly as disturbing and depressing. I listened to a podcast about the Menendez brothers.
Jerry Seinfeld said it best years ago. We cheer for laundry. We don’t personally know the players on the team. They don’t know us. If I were to suddenly drop dead, not one player on the Chicago Bears would even know.
Yet, our days — and even weeks — are made or broken based on the performance of men we never met wearing the uniforms that we like best. When our team doesn’t win, we feel better knowing that neither did our friend’s team.
That goes double for our friends who cheer for the Cowboys.
That is why we call and text each other. That is why we beat each other up on Facebook.
That is why Bears fans have turned to memes asking for our privacy during this difficult time. We really want to be left alone for a while because that one really hurts.
Sadly, the pain we feel over sports losses is real.
That very real pain from the 2003 Boone home run even made me feel for Dee when the Red Sox curb stomped the Yankees in Game 7 of the 2004 ALCS. So, I didn’t go to the phone and return the favor a year later.
Because of the pain I am going through this week, I will not even call her to tease her when the high-priced Dodgers finish off the high-priced Yankees in the World Series.
I won’t even taunt Davey after the loss.
Since he is also a Bears fan, it might be more fitting to send him a tray of pasties.
— Bill Foley, who is going to need some time to get over that Hail Mary loss, can be reached at foles74@gmail.com. Follow him at twitter.com/Foles74. Listen to him on the ButteCast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you find your favorite podcasts.
-
Podcast No. 223: Gary Swant

Deer Lodge native Gary Swant is teacher, scientist, bird watcher and author. His book “My Montana Birds” was written with the goal to help others get into bird watching.
Gary has traveled all seven continents to watch and study birds. He works with the Montana Department of Fish, Wildlife and Parks and the Atlantic Richfield Co. (British Petroleum) to study birds in an effort to give us an accurate indication of the health of our environment.
Gary was a longtime science teacher at Powell County High School in Deer Lodge. After 25 years in education, he retired to focus on following birds full time.
A while back, Gary published a book called “My Montana Birds.” It is a book geared toward people who want to get into bird watching. He says anybody can bird watch, and you can do it from anywhere.
Listen in to this podcast to hear Gary talk about the places he’s traveled too and his favorite places to watch birds. Listen to hear Gary say that Arie Grey wasn’t one the greatest students he taught. (To be fair, Gary said he wasn’t the best student, either.)
Gary currently owns his own business. You can read about that here.
Get your copy of Gary’s book by sending a check for $39.95 to Bird Squawk, Gary Swant, 800 St. Marys, Deer Lodge, MT 59722. Gary will cover the shipping.
Today’s podcast is presented by Thriftway Super Stops. Download the TLC app and start saving today.
-
No. 222: Shari Curtis and Travis Cray

Shari Curtis works in a profession that has suddenly come under attack in these crazy times.
She is a librarian.
Shari is the adult services librarian at the Butte-Silver Bow Public Library. She is behind the great “First Fridays” series that brings in interesting speakers from around the state on the first Friday of each month.
That series drew some bigtime attention last year when transgender speaker Adria Jawort was barred from speaking by our local government. The publicity of that move by our local leaders led to Jawort giving her talk in front of a much larger crowd later on at the Carpenter’s Union Hall a little while later.
In addition to her work at the library, Shari has worked to put a stop to hate in the Mining City. She started a Facebook group called “Not In Our Town, Butte, MT.”
In August, that group held a rally to combat the incidents of masked white supremist spreading hate in town.
Through it all, Shari’s husband Travis Cray has been by her side.
Travis grew up in Vermont, while Shari grew up in Bozeman. Together, they have their dream home — which is still a work in progress — and have no plans to ever leave Butte.
Listen in to this podcast to hear Shari talk about her work at the library and her advocacy against hate. Listen to hear Shari and Travis talk about how they met and how they got engaged.
Today’s podcast is presented by Leskovar Honda, home of the 20-year, 200,000-mile warrantee.
-
My third-grade teacher was worth more than any professional athlete

Once we live through this long national nightmare that is the Yankees and Dodgers playing in the World Series, we will enter the crazy season of sports.
That is when we will see baseball players command salaries that are almost beyond our comprehension.
Last year, the Dodgers signed Shohei Ohtani to a 10-year, $700 million contract. By mid-December, we will likely see Juan Soto sign a contract that is close to that amount. He might even surpass the contract the Dodgers gave Ohtani, and he’ll probably go to the Dodgers.
Then, I will probably bite and get involved in a Facebook argument about athletes being paid too much. The fact is, they are not paid too much.
If anything, Ohtani is underpaid for the amount of money he has made for the Dodgers and Major League Baseball.
The reason athletes are paid so much is they are worth it. They are worth it just like the big-time actors are worth the insane amount of money they get paid to make movies. They are worth it because we pay the inflated price to watch them on the silver screen.
The same goes for athletes. People pay the high prices for tickets and they drink the $15 beers at ballparks. They also pay to watch the games on television, and they buy the officially-licensed apparel.
That is why I find it puzzling that people get mad at the athletes with the big contracts, but have no problem with the rich team owners who gouge us at every turn.
Still, there is no denying that it is a shame that our societal values are so out of whack that we pay a baseball player $700 million. You would think that kind of money would instead go to the doctors, scientists and educators.
Really, if we valued our teachers more, then maybe the United States wouldn’t be ranked 27th in the world in education and No. 1 in confidence.
Ok, so not every teacher deserves to be paid Shohei Ohtani money. That would seem crazy. Nobody deserves that kind of cash, right?
Well, actually, there is one person who I feel should have been paid like that. Here name was Betty Lester, and she was my third-grade teacher.
Well, she was my second third-grade teacher, and everything I have ever accomplished is because of her. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of how Mrs. Lester changed my life.
Mrs. Lester, who passed away at 86 last month, was one of the two third-grade teachers at Kennedy Elementary School. I went to the Blaine School for kindergarten through my first year in third-grade, and I tried to stay home sick four out of five days each week from first through third grade.
Part of the problem was that I was a briefly a perfectionist. I thought I had to get 100 percent on every assignment and every test. Then, one day in first grade, I snapped.
I couldn’t come up with the answer to a math problem on a test. I asked my buddy Brian, who was sitting to my right, if he knew the answer. Brian responded as he should have. He turned his body to shield his paper so I couldn’t see.
Tears started to fill my eyes before I thought, “The heck with it. The answer is seven.” Then I just made up a number for the rest of the test and turned it in.
For the next two and a half years, I was always the first one done with time tests in math. I would just randomly write numbers down at the bottom of each problem and then put my head down on the desk.
I did the same for science, English and social studies. The only subject I worked hard at was gym class.
It was my educational phase where I treated school like Peter treated work on the classic movie “Office Space.” I didn’t get the answers right, and I could not possibly care less.
My mom cared, and I think the teachers cared. But I sure as heck didn’t give a rip if I got an A or an F on a test. I just served my time until the bell rang each day to set me free.
Then I met Mrs. Lester.
The Blaine closed down after my first time around third grade in 1983. I went to third grade again at the Kennedy during the 1983-84 school year.
All summer long, I dreaded going to school — even more than usual. I was going to a new school, and at some point, my friends were going to find out that I was held back.
Or, as Bill Grant so eloquently put it, “Foley funked. Foley flunked. Ha ha, Foley flunked.”
On the first bus ride to Kennedy, I sat next to my best friend Chris. He talked about how he hoped we’d be in the same class and how we were going to have a great fourth grade together.
I just sat there in silence. I didn’t know how to tell him I was still a third grader. Somehow, I avoided the topic during the 300 or so times we played baseball together that summer.
He couldn’t believe it when we had to line up by grade when the morning bell went off. While he stood in the fourth-grade line, I went to the third-grade line.
As much as I agonized over that moment, though, it turned out to be one of the best things that happened to me. I got a new lease on school thanks to Mrs. Lester.
In Mrs. Lester’s class, school was fun. I looked forward to Monday mornings the most because that is when we all had to tell Mrs. Lester about our weekend. She would have us in stitches with her silly responses.
As it turns out, liking school makes it easier to learn.
I can’t say that Mrs. Lester was better at teaching reading, writing and arithmetic than my first third-grade teacher. She just created an atmosphere where I was happier. Much happier. She made me feel special.
That led to a better fourth-grade experience, which led to a better year in fifth grade.
I had a handful of teachers who really went above and beyond to help lead me to where I am today. Dan Piazzola was the strict sixth-grade teacher who prepared us for junior high. Diane Johnson, who is still affectionately known as “Ms. O,” was an outstanding math teacher who made each day of junior high school bearable.
In high school, I had teachers like Julie Seedhouse, Char Davis and Georgine Cachola to really guided me toward my career path. At Montana Tech, Tom Lester (Mrs. Lester’s husband) left his mark as my sociology professor, even though he tried to talk me out of a career in journalism.
“What do you have against eating?” he once asked me.
At the University of Montana, I was lucky enough to have Mike Laslovich, the best political science teacher ever and an Anaconda guy to boot. I also had journalism mentors like Sharon Barrett, who brought out the best in my writing, along with Dennis Swibold and Frank Allen, the dean.
If you add up all the money those teachers and professors made over their entire careers, it wouldn’t pay for one year of Shohei Ohtani to hit a baseball. It wouldn’t even get you a decent utility infielder.
Yet, each one of those teachers — and many more — made more of an impact on my life than any baseball, football or basketball player ever could.
It really is too bad that the great teachers in our lives are just not paid like the superstars that they are.
If they were, Mrs. Lester would have been the world’s first trillionaire.
— Bill Foley, who will always be thankful he got to the chance to tell Mrs. Lester how much she meant to him before she passed away, can be reached at foles74@gmail.com. Follow him at twitter.com/Foles74. Listen to him on the ButteCast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you find your favorite podcasts.

















